Among the reasons approaching a gorgeous woman is so hard is the congruence test. An attractive woman gets hit on as much as 15 times a day! Because of this, she needs a super effective system to rapidly filter out the monkeys from the possibilities.
A congruence test is a test to see if you are actually as confident as you appear to be, usually by throwing a fussy remark or insulting you in some way. It is to see how you, their potential date, reacts to a stressful stimulus. The reasoning is, if you can put up with her extreme opinions and emotions, you might have the ability to handle her in the real world.
A congruence test can be offensive, dejecting, and just plain mean. It is designed to shake your confidence so that a lesser man would run away. These are some of the tests you can expect to be given:
“Do you always hit on girls at bars?”
“How old are you?”
“I only talk to good looking guys.”
“What car do you drive?”
“Run along, shorty.”
“Sorry, I’m not interested”
“Where’d you get those shoes?”
and my favorite, “Who the HELL are you?”
Ruthless! If you experienced a congruence test, it seems like you’ve been kicked in the balls, then to the face, then stabbed in the gut … At the same time, your ego plummets faster than you can run away from her. Good news is that this is a filtering mechanism and doesn’t always mean the woman is not interested. There are 4 methods you can employ to turn her rudeness into a flirtation and prove to her that you can deal with a woman who is a little bitchy at times.
1) Flip the script!
Flipping the script means that you’re using whatever she said as leverage and throw it back to them. If she says, “I only talk with good looking men.” You can simply reply, “Is that why you’re so attracted to me?” Or if she says “You’re a little chubby, aren’t you?” You can reply, “Yeah! We ought to lose a couple pounds together.” This will startle and probably amuse her. It’ll soften her up if nothing else.
2) Misinterpret
Misinterpretation means that any time a girl tests you for congruence, you “mistakenly” misinterpret it as a sexual advance. If she says “Where’d you get those hideous shoes?” or “Do you always hit on girls at bars?” She’s giving you a congruence test and wishes to rattle you a bit. Respond with “Look, I have actually just met you, don’t come on to me too quickly.” She’ll end up being the surprised one, and you will successfully pass her screening.
3) Ignore
Just brush it off. Continue with whatever strategy you had. Or, pretend she said something different. “Nah, I don’t feel like dancing right now. Perhaps a little later though.” Do not get caught up in her game; she really just wants to know that you won’t be frightened by it, she doesn’t need a sparring partner.
4) Play along
Another way to surprise her and turn the discussion onto a more favorable track is to just make the remark fun by playing along. “I can ask you the same!” meets her at her level of intensity and acknowledges her reluctance to engage you but turns the confrontation into something fun.
That’s it!
When you get over your approach anxiety, and approach a woman with all the confidence you are able to conjure up and she responds with a mean comment, it is easy to get dejected. Just remember that she is testing you. She has done this to all the chumps that came prior to you. Yet you are not a typical chump, so don’t hesitate, even for a moment, or she’ll know that she has had an impact on you. As soon as she tosses a congruence test at you, don’t falter in your self-confidence and deliver your reply. Be confident, stay confident, and do not let her shake that confidence.
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